Ach! Nothing came of that last date. We talked and texted a few times, and then we were supposed to go out and suddenly, to use a movie term, he "went dark." No contact, nothing, nada!
It might have been because I was supposed to text back on a Monday night after practice and didn't because I went out with a friend after practice, had a couple of beers, went home, and fell asleep right away. But I had forgiven him for not contacting me for months! He can't forgive one night?
Hmmmm ...
Last night I went out with some friends for a girls' night and one of them asked me how often I go out; "what, like, once a week?"
I was agog!
My friends think I'm popular!!!
That's the nicest compliment I've gotten in a long time. Seriously.
Then I immediately had low self-esteem. It suddenly seemed like this was an expectation of me, and I was letting my friends down. When I had to tell her, "No, it's more like once a year," it dawned on me that I've probably gone down in their estimation. They thought I was cool enough to have a date a week, and I'm not. So now, I'm not only letting my friends down, but I'm unattractive enough to get that many dates! My only comforting thought was perhaps this makes them feel better about themselves. You know, like Schadenfreude.*
I'm always happy to help others with their self-esteem.
Still I felt like I got a glimpse of what it must have been like to be one of those popular girls who give in to peer pressure. I mean, the weight of having to meet your friends' expectations is daunting.
*Wikipedia it!
Friday, May 31, 2013
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Are you listening?
I had a date last night and it was awesome! Do you know how long it's been since I've been on an AWESOME date? Continents were still drifting.
He looks like my ideal - blond and blue-eyed. And he asked me so many questions. At one point, he apologized for asking so many questions, and I had to tell him that I love it! So different from the last date I was on.*
At the end of the date, he was such a gentleman. So much in fact, that I thought he might not be interested.
But he just called! and he definitely wants to talk.
Fingers crossed!
*did I tell you about that? Ugh, it was awful. I LITERALLY never thought I would say this but I got sick of him being interested in me only physically. Not that I don't want someone to be interested in me physically, but come on! I'm a smart person, I can tell that you're just asking the perfunctory obligatory conversational questions and that you're not really interested in listening to me. Conversation went something like this:
Me: Aren't you going to ask me any questions? (I LITERALLY had to ask him to ask me questions).
Him: What historical period do you most like?
Me: (stunned) What? Oh, uuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Victorian, I guess.
Him: Really?
Me: Well, I think the scientific advances of the time really influenced the art of the time.
Him: What scientific advances?
Me: Oh, like the study of anatomy, it reallyHIM: I'd like to study your anatomy!
Of course, this is the first guy I meet after I dated a guy who asked me 4 times within the span of two hours, "Which one is your parking space?" We were standing IN IT for the first three times he asked. On the 4th, I snapped back, and he took it personally. He sulked for about an hour and then tried to instigate a fight. I apologized, saying that I don't like feeling like I'm not being listened to. He ignored that and kept trying to fight. I stopped the fight and said, "This is what I'm talking about." He backed down, but I LITERALLY lost interest in him at that moment.
He looks like my ideal - blond and blue-eyed. And he asked me so many questions. At one point, he apologized for asking so many questions, and I had to tell him that I love it! So different from the last date I was on.*
At the end of the date, he was such a gentleman. So much in fact, that I thought he might not be interested.
But he just called! and he definitely wants to talk.
Fingers crossed!
*did I tell you about that? Ugh, it was awful. I LITERALLY never thought I would say this but I got sick of him being interested in me only physically. Not that I don't want someone to be interested in me physically, but come on! I'm a smart person, I can tell that you're just asking the perfunctory obligatory conversational questions and that you're not really interested in listening to me. Conversation went something like this:
Me: Aren't you going to ask me any questions? (I LITERALLY had to ask him to ask me questions).
Him: What historical period do you most like?
Me: (stunned) What? Oh, uuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Victorian, I guess.
Him: Really?
Me: Well, I think the scientific advances of the time really influenced the art of the time.
Him: What scientific advances?
Me: Oh, like the study of anatomy, it reallyHIM: I'd like to study your anatomy!
Of course, this is the first guy I meet after I dated a guy who asked me 4 times within the span of two hours, "Which one is your parking space?" We were standing IN IT for the first three times he asked. On the 4th, I snapped back, and he took it personally. He sulked for about an hour and then tried to instigate a fight. I apologized, saying that I don't like feeling like I'm not being listened to. He ignored that and kept trying to fight. I stopped the fight and said, "This is what I'm talking about." He backed down, but I LITERALLY lost interest in him at that moment.
Friday, May 3, 2013
The long and short of it.
So that date I went on? It was normal. Unfortunately no sparks. That's a shame.
Of course, I should have known. This man told me that he'd never seen an episode of Seinfeld in his life. How is that even possible?!? It's on 30 different channels at least twice a day, and they show 4 shows each time, and I'm pretty sure that they're broadcasting it into space to prepare aliens for what sarcasm sounds like. It's ridiculous!!! In all seriousness, we have to admit, that this is a show that has become a defining cultural icon of the '90s, like leisure suits in the '70s.
Imagine having a conversation where you say, "He's a close talker," and the other person DOESN'T KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN. If he were smart, he might figure it out from the context clues, but my goodness, you don't want your date conversation to turn into a 5th grade reading question!
He also did not know what imdb is. One of my proudest moments is being listed on imdb.* He had no idea what that was.
So how can someone who's into comedy and pop culture, and loves movies, be with someone who's never seen Seinfeld, and is not familiar with imdb?
Short answer: You can't. Long answer: I tried, but it still takes me back to the short answer.
*Incidentally, despite having been told several times in my life that I have a "movie star's name," I am the ONLY one with my name on imdb. Yeah bitches.
Of course, I should have known. This man told me that he'd never seen an episode of Seinfeld in his life. How is that even possible?!? It's on 30 different channels at least twice a day, and they show 4 shows each time, and I'm pretty sure that they're broadcasting it into space to prepare aliens for what sarcasm sounds like. It's ridiculous!!! In all seriousness, we have to admit, that this is a show that has become a defining cultural icon of the '90s, like leisure suits in the '70s.
Imagine having a conversation where you say, "He's a close talker," and the other person DOESN'T KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN. If he were smart, he might figure it out from the context clues, but my goodness, you don't want your date conversation to turn into a 5th grade reading question!
He also did not know what imdb is. One of my proudest moments is being listed on imdb.* He had no idea what that was.
So how can someone who's into comedy and pop culture, and loves movies, be with someone who's never seen Seinfeld, and is not familiar with imdb?
Short answer: You can't. Long answer: I tried, but it still takes me back to the short answer.
*Incidentally, despite having been told several times in my life that I have a "movie star's name," I am the ONLY one with my name on imdb. Yeah bitches.
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